How do I help my child cope with the death of a classmate or school tragedy?

The death of a peer or a school-related tragedy shatters a child's sense of safety in a way that other losses may not. Be honest in age-appropriate language — do not use euphemisms like 'went to sleep.' Reassure them about their own safety: 'You are safe. The adults at your school are working to keep everyone safe.' Allow all emotions, including anger, guilt, and fear. Maintain routines as much as possible, as structure provides comfort. Watch for behavioral changes: sleep problems, clinginess, declining grades, or withdrawal. Some regression is normal and usually temporary. If the school offers counseling, encourage participation. Create opportunities to process — drawing, writing letters, or participating in memorials can help. Consult your pediatrician if grief symptoms persist beyond 6 months or include self-harm ideation.